A poll in Parenting magazine asked readers if it was important to be financially stable before having children.
Well here's my long drawn out take:
Yes because it's important to be able to take care of your children and no because you shouldn't be barrred from becoming a parent just because you lack insurance or a big fancy bank account.
I don't think the issue is as black and white as we'd like to make it because there are more arguments to be made.
As long as you can take care of your children it's none of my business.
Thoughts?
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I wholeheartedly agree with you! I couldn't care less if you don't have much money as long as you love and care for your children!
I agree, to a point. I think if you have a kid, or two, and you see that financially you are strapped, and really having any more would affect the quality of the life of the ones you have, you should quit there. Does that make sense??
I agree with Jaime, as long as she means truly strapped and not just "Gee, its going to be a tight couple of months."
I always feel weird in discussions about money influencing family decisions because I've been *extremely* poor in the past, and my parents did have kids they could not really afford. We all suffered as a result, but obviously I'm glad they were born. I also feel weird because we are financially well off, and I have a lot of weirdness and internal angsty feelings on the subject of finances in general. Ugh!!
*Also, I lost you somehow in my links when I moved. Adding you now.
Karrie we were also "poor but we had love." LOL. I just see instances of young people who continue to have kids without a safety net and that bothers me. If the kids don't suffer then hey have as many as you'd like.
Financial stuff gives me the willies too.
In our family there was a WHOLE lot of love to go around 3 children . We ate alot of stuff my dad killed. If I waited til I could "afford" children Id have never had children.
There is a fine line. If you can't put food on the table and keep a roof over your head, then you shouldn't have another child. If it means you have to scale back on the extras, then you have to evaluate whether or not it will affect your family's quality of life. Quality of life is different for everyone though. One person's extra, may be another person's basic need.
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